Resting and Rising

Note: I intended to post this last week, but just remembered that I never did. I wanted to keep editing it—it didn’t feel…what’s the word…perfect yet. You’ll see why that is particularly hilarious after you finish reading.

Last Sunday afternoon, I made my first foray into the bread-baking world. I felt instinctively that bread dough, like an animal, can sense your anxiety. And since I wanted my bread to be calm, fluffy and happy, I took some deep breaths as I began and assured myself (and the dough-to-be) that all would be well.

The first lesson I learned about bread-making is that it takes a lot of time. There’s no getting around that. It involves several rounds of resting, kneading and rising…and those mini-seasons simply can’t be rushed. So during the first dough rise, I took a walk to the park. As evening exchanged places with day, I breathed in the warm, flowering air and delighted in all the people walking, shuffling, and toddling about me. On my way back I even treated myself to a purchase in faith: a new jar of raspberry preserves. Sure enough, I arrived home and pulled a bowl brimming with pillowy dough from the oven. Huzzah! I did a little jig and the world felt right.

Then, I made a mistake. A little one….but big enough to squelch my jigging spirits. I punched the dough down. I thought I remembered somewhere that you’re supposed to do that. Unfortunately, not for this recipe. I realized this about 10 minutes later when the dough was sort of flat and unwilling to be shaped into loaves. Arrrg. I dumped the dough back in the bowl and, scowling, proceeded to eat a bunch of chocolate covered almonds.

After the regrettable almond episode, I calmed down a bit and decided that potentially awkward bread was better than none at all, so I went back and begrudgingly re-shaped the loaves. As I let them rise for a second time, I remembered my initial bread dough-senses-your-anxiety theory and forced myself to listen to music and do some yoga. At one point, a familiar chorus struck me anew:

“Lord you are perfect, in all of Your ways

You're not easily angered, You make no mistakes

No, nothing can stop You...Nothing can stand in Your way”

And that was when I realized. The LORD is perfect. Not me. Obviously, I’d forgotten about that (and not just with the bread loaves, but a lot of things recently).

Oswald Chambers says: “I have the responsibility of keeping my spirit in agreement with His Spirit, and by degrees Jesus lifts me up to where He lived- in perfect consecration to His Father’s will.” Revelation: I’m not created to aim for my own perfection— I’m created to agree with His perfection. Essentially, I can’t serve both God and perfection.

It’s an old problem for me but I’m realizing anew just how deep the roots have dug in there. Clearly, I need help. And as much as I resist it, part of the solution is found in worship and rest….when I do that He changes my perspective and I want to agree with Him. It takes TIME. There’s no getting around that. And it requires the kind of rest that allows Christ to raise me again to new life.

So as I slathered some jam onto a warm slice of whole wheat bread later that night (yeah…after all that, it turned out just fine), I sighed….reluctantly thankful for this unexpected lesson on the necessary imperfection of resting…and rising. 

In spite of the wonders

Today I wandered back to an old post from this blog to find a quote for a friend, and as I read through my thoughts from last year, I realized how many things, both within and without, have changed. I have grown in my ability to see light and beauty, to daringly plop my ankles into water and splash about in a hope-driven life. And yet, I am also struck by how many of last year's questions still remain, unwilling smudges I try determinedly to scrub out.

Take this morning, for example, when Psalm 78 stuck in my spirit like a chip in the windpipe. I believe I literally coughed at it. How dare the scriptures so baldly bare my soul to itself?

"They forgot what he had done,
   the wonders he had shown them....
18 They willfully put God to the test
   by demanding the food they craved.
19 They spoke against God;
   they said, “Can God really
   spread a table in the wilderness?
20 True, he struck the rock,
   and water gushed out,
   streams flowed abundantly,
but can he also give us bread?”

It was like a page torn from my thoughts. Thoughts I didn't even know I'd had. On the surface I've noticed a recent tiredness, body and bone and spirit tiredness. But underneath that surface….apparently….is my old friend, Unbelief. "In spite of his wonders, they did not believe" (78:32). I'm thankful for what has changed in the past year, I really am. But I still wrestle with this God who breaks open rock and pours water into my wide-mouthed need. I raise one hand in praise of his wonders while the other holds a little canteen of self-preservation close to my chest...just in case He runs out.

Once again, the Israelites and I are on the same page. "But can he give us bread?" I mean, sure, He can provide me with beyond-belief-gifts and rock-water-joy and deep-creased-change....but can he also give me bread? Essentially, can he sustain me? I'm content now, but what if I feel strangled again by loneliness, swallowed by depression, smothered by this city? What if I run out, dry up, and curl in? What if I fail? I am helplessly prone to wander away from trust in this God of Glories.

Last Thursday night, during lectio divina with my house church, we listened to the passage about the woman with a disabling spirit in Luke 13. Read the whole thing if you can. Here's a snatch:

11 And behold, there was a woman who had had a disabling spirit for eighteen years. She was bent over and could not fully straighten herself. 12 When Jesus saw her, he called her over and said to her, “Woman, you are freed from your disability.” 13 And he reach out and touched her, and immediately she was made straight, and she glorified God.

I'd been meditating on the phrase: "she could not fully straighten herself." The person leading prompted us to ask God: Who should I become in light of this? So I asked. Actually, I prayed, somewhat tongue-in-cheek, 'So God, are you asking me to become someone who can straighten herself out?' (Don't ask God questions like that. He'll answer you). And I just knew His response in my spirit. No, He replied. I'm asking you to let me touch you.

And so…..that's what I'm working on today, friends….and for the remainder of this Lent. Believing that God is enough. Remembering the rocks he's opened and trusting in Him to sustain me still. Admitting my inability to straighten myself out. And learning to let myself be touched.

Lessons and Carols

Hi friends! It's been a LOOOOOONG blog sabbatical, eh? I had intended to "reopen" the blog for advent, but that never happened. I do plan to come up with another blogging task for Lent this year, though-- so watch out!

In the meantime, though, I wanted to share these prayers that I have written for my church's Lessons and Carols service (coming up this Sunday!). I'm so excited for it, and I hope that maybe these words and the readings will be of some encouragement to you in these final two weeks of Advent. Enjoy!

Lessons and Carols 2011

I. The Creation and Fall of Humanity

Invocation

O Holy Breath,
Silence before the world and the word,
come silence us before you
and breathe into our imagination new life
to grasp how glorious and gracious
is the scope of the story you have written us into,
from the creation of the earth
to its redemption
to its continued sustenance by your hand.
Father, you are truly God: immeasurable, incomparable, indelible.

Exhortation
Come, let us gather together and listen with awe and wonder to hear of the God of Israel, the one and only living God, whose own hands crafted us out of nothing, whose very breath gave us life, and who, in spite of our turning away, relentlessly calls us back to himself, back to the garden, back to life in his light.

Readings
Genesis 2:4b-7, 3:1-6, 22-24

II. The Promise of a Redeemer

Invocation
O Mighty Shepherd,
lifter of heads and true Glory of the Father,
your undeserved gentleness and unceasing power
fills us with wonder.
Arrive now,
in your word
and speak to us of your promise,
fulfilled in spite of our faithlessness.
Prepare the way in our souls,
that all the rough and uneven pathways inside
might be leveled by the sheer force
of your mighty authority, and your boundless mercy.
O Prince of Peace, you are truly God:
heal us,
hold us,
herald to us your coming Kingdom.


Exhortation:
 Listen, people of God, to hear the good news. A light dawns on our darkness, a savior enters with authority, a shepherd carries us in his arms. Listen with the darkest places of your soul because it is there that His light will triumph. Listen, with the burdens on your back, for that is the very load He will lift. Listen, with your weariness, strife, and toil, because into that struggle He will bring His zeal, His authority and His endless peace. Listen to the good news.

Readings:
Isaiah 40:1-11
Isaiah 9:2-7

III. The Annunciation and Birth of Christ

Invocation
O Good Father, Draw us near to your heart as we listen to the story of your Incarnation, of God becoming Man, of God coming to be with us and for us. Teach us, as we marvel at this Holy Child, to become children, ourselves, and hold fast to your hand as the light grows dim, clinging to hope.
Jesus, you are truly God: 
quench our sorrow
deepen the shallow
and revive the fallow places in our souls, we pray.

Exhortation:
And now, let us abandon the wideness of the world,
the glories of the heavens,
the epic narrative of God's conversation with man,
and enter into the still, small inner world,
the world of the child,
the very womb of God
where we, with Mary,
wonder at the miracle of God's nearness
and wait for the revelation of His gracious glory to be born again within us. 

Luke 1:26-33, 46-55
Luke 2:1, 3-7

IV. The Proclamation of the Gospel

O Holy Word,
by your word we were first given flesh,
and by your flesh, you have given us the word of hope.
You have made a way for us
by unveiling the face of the Father,
full of grace and truth.
Speak now,
and silence the terrified storms of our souls with your word,
and boldly proclaim
that
you
have
done it.
Savior, you are truly God: above us, for us, and with us.

Exhortation
Family of God, do not fear. Be still before the Lord now, and receive the Truth. Christ has come, and Christ will come again. The darkness has not overcome us, and the end has become the beginning. This is the gospel. Hear it, and live.



Readings:
Luke 2:8-16
John 1:1-14

Oh, Grammy

It has certainly been awhile.... and I have missed writing! While I originally intended the blog as a Lenten practice, it turned into so much more....and even though Lent is long over, I do plan to keep the blog open, in case I randomly have something I want to share. In this case, I would like to share with you a piece of writing that I read aloud at my grandmother's memorial service, just yesterday. She was certainly one-of-a-kind. Hope you enjoy...

Grammy

In moments like these, words seem like such fragile, futile vessels for capturing a human life…for trying to contain the whole colorful, vibrant world of someone like my grandmother and somehow give it new breath. I can’t begin to pin down a life so full of motion, activity, laughter, love, and adventure….of secrets I’ll never know and stories I’ll never forget. Even in death, this wonderful, wild woman simply won’t be held down or summed up. So I’ll choose my words sparingly but deliberately…and offer up just another brush stroke as we re-member Grammy together.

Growing up, I knew Grammy was quite unlike any other. Other people would sometimes describe their grandmothers to me and I would chuckle to myself…. demure, quiet, likes to crochet? Not my Grammy! Grammy’s life was constantly brimming with adventure. She was always going, going, going. Running races, traveling the world, tutoring children, gallivanting about town with friends, fighting for causes, and supporting all of her children and grandchildren at games, plays, concerts, graduations, and the like. I might be one of the few people who can honestly say that my grandmother had a more complicated schedule than I do.

Grammy always had an incredible capacity for celebrating and enjoying life….every sweet drop of it….from an appreciation for art and culture, to her affinity  for parties and social gatherings, to her simple love of a sun-soaked day at the beach with drink in hand.

  And in all circumstances, she was unapologetically herself…comfortable in her own skin, whether playing basketball or dancing at a party or even walking around- as she did one fateful trip to the Bahamas- without any pants on (don’t worry, she had a bathing suit cover up on…but still)…she was who she was…and proud of it! How many times have I heard or used the phrase… “Oooh, Grammy” upon knowledge of another adventure or campaign or humorous conversation….But it’s always said with a smile…I think we simply can’t help but admire someone who lives so boldly and unashamedly… perhaps because deep down we all wish we could do that.

As I’ve gotten older—especially in the past few years, I have grown to see Grammy from an even clearer perspective. On more than one occasion, I’ve recounted—beyond merely funny stories— how grateful I am to have known and been related to such a passionate, courageous woman. I believe that my own love for language and literature, my passion for women’s empowerment, my knack for teaching, and my gutsy “tell it like it is” tendency has to be inherited- at least in part- from her. I’ve come to admire her fiesty perseverance and spunky resilience, her loyalty to friends and family, and her ability to do what few of us have the courage to do with integrity: to wake up each day and face the world head on, without apology or pretense…to drink in each moment and experience the whole, brilliant landscape of life…to laugh and to live from the very core.

This part’s for you, Grammy—improper as it may be, I think you’d appreciate it. I have to admit, for the past several days, a smile keeps creeping to my face as I can’t stop imagining Grammy running into Heaven, as she did upon finishing so many of her races in this life, with a wide grin and a hearty, “Somebody bring me a beer!” Yup. That’s my Grammy. And I’m proud of it. I love you, Grammy, and I’m so thankful for your life.

 

The Empty Place

Today I participated in a “wimp’s fast”—And lest you think my newly coined term is self-effacing, be assured, I say it with great joy, not shame. A few friends and I committed to fast today in order to remember to pray for someone, and as a very reluctant faster, I chose to simply skip eating from the time I left in the morning, to the time I returned to my apartment in the early evening. Essentially skipping lunch…. :) But with intention.

After a certain period of not eating, there’s a hungry space that becomes tangible. It is that space that reminds me to turn again to God, to lift up my needs and hopes and desires to him—for myself and for others—all of the little weights that, with time, become clearer, heavier, and somehow “ripe” for offering.

That hungry space is akin to what my yoga teacher called the “sweet spot” the other day. She said that in a certain philosophy (I can’t remember what culture), there is a belief in a deep sadness that lies within each of us. It is the kind of sadness we experience when we watch a sunset, or listen to a breathtaking piece of music, or witness some other small miracle. Apparently, it is believed that boredom, loneliness, frustration and the like are signs that we are actually moving closer to that sweet spot of sadness, not further away. We just have to sit with and through those emotions in order to arrive there….rather than covering them up with activity, stimulation, food, and other distractions.

My teacher’s point was that when we are stuck holding an unbearable yoga pose for a long period of time, we are moving closer to that sweet spot (or, as I prefer to call it, the “empty place”). Of course, at the time, as sweat pored down my face and my legs began to shake, I sort of wanted to strangle her with her own metaphor (or at least throw a block at her head)….but now looking back, I actually see her point. How often do I use ANYTHING I can to cover up and bury that feeling of sad joy…..whether it’s food, television, phone calls, facebook, job searching or restless “anywhere but here” daydreaming. And what is underneath all of those layers? What is left when I truly STOP and learn to be quiet, to be with myself, and to be with God?

Over and over again, God implores his people to WAIT. So many verses in the Psalms encourage the soul to wait on the Lord, to be still, to be quiet. Perhaps He really is calling us to spend more time in that “empty place.” To find ways to strip away the layers and be left with.....well....nothing—to truly know our own poverty, so that we might look to the One who feeds us. It is often easier to move, to act, to seek, to fill, to hold, to read, to pray, to GO. But I feel God distinctly calling me, in this season, to stop, to cease, to open, to empty, to release, and to simply BE. And wait. In the empty place…..in the tomb deep within, from which he longs to roll away the stone and show us his light, his face, and the healing power of his resurrection.

Complexity and Resilience

I don't apologize for the length of this one. Read it if you dare!


On Tuesday nights, I leave my desk at about 6:25 and walk down the countless flights of stairs to a big, brightly lit reception hall on the first floor. The hum of conversation is in tune with the live jazz and the smell of good food- and lots of it. Tonight, there's a Puerto Rican pork dish with rice and beans and little peanut butter cupcakes for dessert. Everyone keeps asking if I'm going to have some-- apparently, it's a hit.

People are still trickling in (and sometimes out) when Eric- the head of the program- steps up to the mic and welcomes everyone to Our Place: A Wellness Cafe. After we pray and sing a few songs, someone reads the biblical twist on the 12 Steps, followed by a testimony. Tonight, J. reads us her "homeless story," as she calls it-- recalling her childhood in Birmingham, AL in the 50's, her troubled teenage years in NYC, and the heartaches and joys of her adult life. She is simple and sincere. I admire how articulate she is, then immediately judge myself for focusing on that, rather than the story.
I glance around and take in the room as Eric begins a short talk....a few apron-clad volunteers collect plates and refill coffee. Someone gets up to go to the bathroom.  But most people just sit and listen. Some are dressed in crisp collared shirts with combed hair and an attentive eye. Others are layered in an assortment of shirts and coats, toting their lives on their backs. Some struggle to stay awake, others struggle to stay still. I find myself doing both. All walks of life converge for a moment here.

We break into small groups-- "wellness circles"--- and tonight we answer the question-- "what is one hurt, habit, or hangup that you have that just doesn't seem to go away?" I’m a bit distracted by a less-than-pleasant smell, but to try and discern its owner would be…well, tricky. I nudge myself away from my clean-freak tendencies and back to the conversation. Some of my group members share their struggles to survive in horrific living conditions, or stay afloat without a job, or recoup after their money or IDs were stolen at a shelter. Others share about the need to see God as loving, to let go of shame, to move forward in trust. We close with the serenity prayer and truly do hope to be supremely happy in the life to come.

Now it’s time for classes. The knitting group is hopping tonight—everyone is excited that it’s back in swing. The creative writing class gathers and is already scribbling away by the time my little cohort and I finally make our way down stairs for Creative Expression (my feeble attempt at making the word “Theater” seem less scary). It is always a small group, but every week God provides—both people and ideas, courage and hope. Tonight we are jovial. There is a lot of laughter at our collectively bizarre imaginations. Later, I lead them through an exercise using bits of news headlines I have snipped from the morning paper. They collaborate to create still shots that represent these titles. It is always interesting to watch a story emerge out of seemingly nothing….just a few words- “join the fight” or “tipping point” or “tough call” and you have an image. Add a few people and you have a scene. Add imagination and Voice and you have a story. One image from this exercise sticks with me as I leave later in the evening, dodging the rain on my way to the subway—two people, limbs intertwined,, growing into a man standing nearby. The stolen newspaper heading: “Complexity and Resilience.” Yes, I think, that is the perfect title for tonight.

Returning and Rest, Quietness and Trust

Some days-- like this one--that are filled with rain and muffled light, both inside and out, the best I can do is to sneak away to the chapel and sit for a moment and pray one of my favorite prayers from the BCP:

"O God, you will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are fixed on you; for in returning and rest we shall be saved; in quietness and trust shall be our strength."

The Real Presence and Present Mystery

He was the Word, that spake it:
He took the bread and brake it;
And what that Word did make it,
I do believe and take it.
 

--John Donne

Sweet Spring Evening

Yesterday was tinged with weariness.....and tomorrow is shadowed by unknowns.....But I am learning (slowly) that Jesus' power and grace are most abundant in the present moment. And I am trying to slow my pace and stay back with Him. So right now, here's what I'm thankful for:

1. After a run through Central Park and strolling about the upper west side today, I finally have some sun-kissed skin to declare that winter is officially OVER!

2. A beautiful, relaxing evening with a good friend (and roommate!): walk to the park, followed by a wine tasting at the store down the street, and a chilled white- to mark the arrival of spring- shared over leftovers and good conversation at our kitchen table.....plus a little Under the Tuscan Sun to round the evening out.

3. Interviewing for a volunteer opportunity I've been interested in for months....and dreaming about the future, learning to hush my worries and let myself feel hopeful...

4. That above it all, and over it all, and in it all.....is a God who is FOR US....and from whose love we cannot be separated....neither by death nor life, angels nor demons, the present nor the future, nor any power in all creation. (!)

Now that's what I call a good Saturday.

He who dwells....will rest.

On Saturday, I ran 13.1 miles. I still can't really believe I did it, but somehow, by the grace of God, my feet kept moving and I didn't stop running until I crossed that half-marathon finish line! It was an incredible experience. And it was cool to do it not just for my own physical health, but for World Vision's efforts to provide clean water to those who don't have access to it (it is hard to believe that is still possible in the world today, but apparently it's a huge reality for many people). Anyway, there's a lot I could say about the race, but one thing stands out as most important: that God taught me to rely on Him....physically, mentally and emotionally.

The night before the race I was so anxious I couldn't sleep at all. My automatic reaction was to think that God was just not showing up, not holding up His end of the bargain, not giving me what I wanted. And somehow, His voice broke through my self-centered, sleepless, anxious thoughts and the words that stuck with me as I fell asleep, as I ate my oatmeal the next morning, and even as I ran the course were "you shall not strike your foot against a stone." I found myself praying that over and over as I ran, lifting my body up to Him, and trusting that He protect me from illness, injury and hopelessness. And he most certainly did! I experienced joy as I ran-- He lifted me up and truly kept my feet (and my spirits) from stumbling.

Last night, I took the time (finally) to look up that passage and  found that it was from Psalm 91- a psalm that has meant a great deal to me in the past. It begins: "He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty" and as it continues it resounds in some of the most hollow crevices in my spirit...."He will cover you with his feathers and under his wings you will find refuge....You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday....For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone."

Here is what is TRUE (not easy....but true): If we learn to dwell in Him, we will find rest....rest in the Truth that He hears us. He sees us. He knows us. He loves us. He covers us. He keeps us.....And He lifts us up.